Guide To Sex Dating Sites

Adult dating websites can be a lot of fun and they can provide excellent opportunities for enhancing your sex life, but you do need to use a little caution when meeting people on these sites. There are several pitfalls you need to think about and take the appropriate steps to avoid.

While meeting women on any kind of dating site is basically a numbers game, this is especially true with adult dating sites.  Actually it’s more than one numbers game.  The first numbers game is simply that the more women you contact, the greater your chance of actually meeting someone to hook up with.  Of course, the better you are at writing your profile ad, your message headlines, and your messages, the better you’ll be at that first numbers game.  The second numbers game is the more times you contact a given prospect, the more likely you’ll be able to hook up with her. 

Let’s talk about that second numbers game.  Remember, on the legitimate adult dating sites (let’s not even think about the scam sites), some women are receiving hundreds of messages per week.  Even if you are a master of writing attention-getting message subject lines  and response-generating messages, there’s still a good chance that your message will get lost in the huge volume of messages a given woman is receiving.  So if she’s someone you’re interested in, don’t be afraid to contact her on a regular basis to try to get noticed.

Now, what would be considered contacting someone on a regular basis?  Contacting someone on a daily basis, while it meets the definition of “regular”, would probably be considered stalking, which will not only not tend to generate a favorable response, but will probably wind up getting your messages blocked.  I recommend a frequency of about once every 2 to 4 weeks. 

But what if she looks really hot and you’re really anxious to meet her?  That would be your first mistake.  You really need to develop the attitude that there are plenty of good looking women to hook up with and no matter how good she may look, she’s NOT the perfect woman.  The best thing you can do to give yourself an active sex life is to NOT be too anxious to meet ANY woman.  Be a bit stand-offish.  Make contact, but don’t drool all over your keyboard as you type your message. 

You want to be persistent and continue to express interest as long as she still has a profile up and is active on the site.  Now, what do I mean by “active”?  Most sex dating sites will give you an indicator as to when the last time someone logged on to her account was.  If she hasn’t been there in over a month, definitely don’t waste your time sending her a message.  You are far better off spending your time messaging active members rather than hoping one particular woman will happen to log in again after being away for a month and happen to see your message and answer it.  If she’s hot and she does come back after being gone for a month, she’ll probably have several hundred messages in her mailbox, and most likely she’ll just delete them all and start over.  Even after just a couple of weeks, the huge volume of accumulated messages that a particularly good looking woman will undoubtedly have is more likely to be totally deleted than read, so I recommend sticking to sending messages to women who are checking in at least every week or so.  Remember, you aren’t sending these prospects messages every week - you follow-up every 2 to 4 weeks.  By sending messages every 2 to 4 weeks, you’ll be seen as someone who is interested, but not an obsessed stalker. 

You may be wondering what to send as a follow-up message.  You could simply send the same (or nearly the same) thing you did on the first contact.  There’s a good chance she didn’t get to read it the first time around.  You may want to change it up somewhat.  The main thing is to try to come up with an interesting subject line and a brief, but interesting message.  Besides that, don’t sweat it.  If you’re contacting multiple women multiple times and you don’t come across as a stalker or some clingy wussy-boy, you will meet women and you will get laid - it’s simply a matter of time.

 When you are answering a woman’s online personal ad, particularly on a sex dating site, your main focus needs to be on your headline or subject line.  Women on sex dating sites get a lot of messages in their mailboxes and in some cases they get so many they don’t even have time to read them all.  This means they pick and choose which ones to open based on the subject lines that catch their attention.

 To have an attention-getting subject line, you want to say something different than 90% of the other guys who are sending women messages on these sites.  What do you think most guys say in their subject lines?  Well, variations of “Hi” and “Hello” (including “Hey”, “What’s Up”, and the always classy “Whassup?”) are very common, so if you want to catch a prospect’s attention, you’ll need to get a bit more creative if you want your messages to be read consistently.

 Another common approach is the theme of “Let’s Get Together”, “Let’s Meet”, “Let’s Hookup”, etc..  So again, if you want your messages read - which by the way tends to help your chances of ultimately getting laid - you need to be a little creative.

I go into detail of what to say in your subject lines and in your messages so that you’ll stand out in the crowd and dramatically improve your chances of hooking up in my E-Book: “Secrets To Getting Laid From Sex Dating Websites”, which you can find on my main site at www.guidetosexdatingsites.com/order.html.