Guide To Sex Dating Sites

While I recognize that the reason most people sign up on an adult dating website is to meet people for “no-strings” casual sex, sooner or later you’ll probably get hungry and you and your partner will want something to eat.  Of course, you can just go out and grab something or order food delivered, but if you want to impress a date without a whole lot of effort and without spending near as much money as going out or getting delivery, it’s good to have some basic cooking skills.

 Don’t worry, there’s some really easy things you can cook that will really impress the women you date.  For example, one of the things I cook that never fails to get great reviews is my quesadillas (which as near as I can tell is Spanish for “grilled cheese sandwich”).   All you do is take a pre-made burrito-sized tortilla, cover half of it with shredded cheese (cheddar, colby, monterrey jack, or whatever you like), then put a layer of canned chicken or imitation crab meat on top of the cheese, add a little salsa on top of that for spice, and then finish with another layer of cheese.  Fold the other half of the tortilla over the top and carefully pick it up and place it in a 10 inch or larger frying pan with a thin layer of cooking oil in the bottom of it on medium heat.  When the bottom side is browned, use two spatulas to flip it over and brown the other side.  When brown on both sides, put it on a plate to cool for a couple of minutes then cut it into three triangular pieces and serve.  These go great with a cold beer or soda. 

Another easy thing to make is homemade pizza.  Just get a pre-made crust like Boboli, cover it with a layer of your favorite spaghetti sauce, a layer of shredded cheese, and either sliced veggies (tomato, onion, mushrooms, peppers, etc.) and/or meats (pepperoni, sausage, ham, etc.) put in an oven on a baking sheet or a piece of foil at about 350 degrees and check it periodically until the cheese is melted and slightly browned.  You’re now a pizza chef! 

If things have run into the morning hours and you’re looking for a breakfast idea, I suggest the Tex-Mex classic, migas.  Migas are basically scrambled eggs with pieces of tortilla or tortilla chips mixed in with them, usuall also with salsa and cheese.  If you can make scrambled eggs, you can make migas.  Put some butter or oil in a frying pan and put in as much or as little cut-up tortilla or broken tortilla chips as you like and toast them lightly over medium heat. When lightly toasted, add your scrambled eggs, and cook as you usually would.  As the eggs get close to fully cooked, add some salsa (a little or a lot, depending on how spicy you want it), and a handful or so of shredded cheese.  Mix everything in and when the eggs are done and the cheese is melted, it’s ready to eat.  You can serve migas with toast, bacon, sausage, or any other breakfast side dish. 

Enjoy the food and enjoy how impressed your date is that you can cook!  You’ll definitely be a stand-out among the men she dates.  She’ll be back to see you even if you were lame in bed!

Some women like to see how much they can get away with and how much you’re willing to put up with in order to have sex with them.  Many guys assume if they give in to what the women they date want (or at least seem to want) it will improve their chances of getting laid.   This is usually NOT the case!  In fact, the more you stay cool and play hard to get, the more likely it is that she won’t play hard to get.

Women will test you.  Most women are most attracted to strong, confident men and they’re going to test you to see if your a “real man” or a weak kiss-ass.  You could simply refuse to play the game - and that will get you laid a lot more often than giving in and sucking up to her, but a far more effective approach is to use humor to deal with the tests.

The first test you’ll often come up against is the plan for the date.  Most women want you to have a plan for the date.  They won’t necessarily LIKE your plan, but they want you to at least HAVE a plan.  So if she asks you “What do you want to do?”, you need to have something better ready for an answer than “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” 

So, let’s say you’re prepared with a plan and she shoots it down.  If she doesn’t come up with an alternate plan right away, you need to suggest another plan (always have at least two in mind).  If she shoots that plan down too, but still doesn’t have a suggestion of her own, she may simply be testing you and is intentionally being difficult.  If you suspect this to be the case, start teasing her about it.  You could say something like “You know, if I wanted a date that was this much of a pain in the ass, I’d find a chick with a strap-on!” (this can be said dead-serious or with a little smirk or a wink). Most women at this point will start defending themselves.  Your date may pretend to be upset with you (or may even really be upset with you - it doesn’t really matter!) for saying that she’s a pain in the ass and demand an apology.  To which you can say something like, “I’m really sorry…that you’re such a pain in the ass!”  Don’t give in and get all apologetic.  Stand your ground and if she continues to shoot down any plans you come up with, you can take the game to its conclusion by finally stating something like “I’ll tell you what, I’m going to [insert your preferred plan here], if you want to join me, I know you’ll have a great time - well, obviously because you’ll be with me (said in a half-serious tone so as not to come across as too arrogant).  If you don’t want to join me, that’s cool, just give me a call sometime when you’re not being a pain in the ass - if there is such a time - and maybe we can try to hookup again.”  If she ws just testing you, most likely she’s going to go along with your plan at this point.  If she really is simply a pain in the ass, good riddance - go find someone easier to get along with. 

When you’re meeting women on adult dating sites, you will typically have a lot fewer tests than you get from women in more conventional dating situations.  The main tests deal with planning of dates and then occasionally you’ll run across the women who want to play hot and cold to tease you and see how you’ll react.  Again, you need to be in control of yourself and not play her game.  For example, let’s say she’s all over you one minute, but the moment you try to move things along, she goes cold and backs off.  The first time she does this, it’s time for you to play it really cool.  When she goes hot again and tries to get you heated up, it’s your turn to give her the cold shoulder - hold her back and say something like “Slow down, baby, I’m not just some piece of meat!”  (said in an exaggerated tone of voice to hint that you’re playing).  Most of the time, women who play the hot/cold game will try even harder at this point to get you turned on.  Continue to play it cool - make her do the work.  The more you hold back, the less she will.  Eventually, she’ll get so turned on that she’ll forget the game and you’ll wind up naked and protesting to her that you really shouldn’t fuck her and reward her lack of respect for you as a human being, but what the hell!

Dating should be fun, not a power struggle.  If your date is trying to make things a power struggle, have some fun with it.  If things aren’t working between you and your prospective date, move on to someone more fun.  It doesn’t matter how hot she may look and how much you want to bang her - there are always plenty of other hot women you’ll want to hookup with who will be a lot more fun.  NEXT!

For more about how to deal with women in dating situations, check out the “Success With Women” page of my website.

When it comes to being successful with women, confidence is probably the most important thing you need to have in order to get dates and have those dates wind up as nekkid fun.  Confidence can make you very sexy in the eyes of most women even if you are not particularly handsome, even if you don’t have much money, and regardless of what age you are.  When it comes down to it, confidence is the key to getting laid and getting laid often.

On the other side of the coin, arrogance is a big turn-off for most women.  Although you can overcome the repellant effect of arrogance to some extent if you have a lot of money, happen to be famous, or are unusually good-looking, arrogance will diminish the success you could have with women. 

So, if confidence is such a good thing to have (it can largely overcome the anti-attraction effects of almost anything else), and arrogance is such a damaging trait to have (it can largely negate the attractiveness generated by almost anything else), and the two are somewhat close in people’s minds, I think it is important to be able to tell the difference.

I define confidence as being the belief (or at least the behavior in accordance with the belief) that you are as good or as desirable as anyone else.  Arrorgance is the belief (or sometimes simply the behavior) that you are BETTER than everyone else.  In many cases, arrogance is actually not based on a real belief that one is superior, but rather on a fear that one is inferior and by pretending to be superior, maybe nobody will notice your shortcomings.  This is why although arrogance is sometimes considered to be over-confidence, it is often actually a cover for a lack of confidence. 

So when it comes to dating success, confidence drives up your perceived sexiness and arrogance drives it down. 

The one time that arrogance can actually help you is if you turn it into a joke.  For example, if you’re a “regular guy”, and you’re on a date and see some rich guy pull up in a fancy, expensive car, you might turn to your date and say something like, “What a loser - showing up in last year’s Mercedes!” 

So confidence is critical - but what if you aren’t confident?

You can pretend to be confident until you actually are!

I’ll explain what I mean by that next time.

Until then…  much dating success to you!