Guide To Sex Dating Sites

OK, you’ve met a woman on a sex dating site, and things have gone well enough that you’re meeting her in person.  Occasionally, you’ll meet a woman who basically wants to meet at her place, your place, or a hotel room and get right down to business (that mostly happens in porn flicks and not the real world).  Most women are going to want to meet you in public first, just so they can pretend they’re not contemplating having sex with some guy they met online who could easily be an axe murderer.  Interestingly, several women have actually said something to me along the lines of “You’re not an axe murderer, are you?”, to which I always reply, “No, I prefer chainsaws.”

 Now, a lot of guys think that at this point of meeting in person, sex is a done deal.  It’s not.  Even though women you meet on sex dating sites are definitely open to casual sexual encounters, it doesn’t mean they are going to have sex with just anyone.  Unless she happens to be totally desperate, if you don’t handle the situation correctly, there’s an excellent chance you will blow the deal. 

A lot of guys go into these situations completely focused on getting laid, and this leads to them coming across as over-eager and desperate, which is a total turn-off for many women.  Most women are sexually attracted to men who are confident, funny, assertive, and who have SELF-CONTROL - regardless of what the guy looks like or how much money he may have.  But if your puddle of drool gets her shoes wet, that’s the only part of her you’re going to be getting wet. 

My recommendation is to go into any and every date with the mindset of you are there to enjoy yourself - NOT that you are there to have sex.  If you’re meeting at a restaurant, bar, coffee shop, or whatever, make your plan be that you are going to have a good time at that location, have a nice bite to eat, a drink or two, or do whatever there is to do at that place.  You go, you meet the woman, you stick to light conversation and joke around and tease her.  Have fun!  Your goal for the date is to take what comes.  You want to be in a mindset that you will have a great time whether or not the date leads to sex.  And if you keep your cool, most of the time it WILL lead to sex. 

If you do things right, most of the time not only will it lead to sex, but your date will be the one who gets the ball rolling and invites you back to her place, asks if she can come to your place, or just plain drags you out to the back alley to have her way with you.  If you stay relaxed, confident, and remember to tease her, most of the time she will get so turned on she won’t wait for you to make the first move.

Prior to learning how to be “good with women”, I’d be a nervous wreck going on a first date.  I’d worry about impressing my date, getting her to like me, how to try to transition to romance, etc..  I’m sure that my nervousness came across to my dates, and strangely enough, I had a really difficult time getting laid. 

When I changed my focus and attitude to one of I was going out to have a good time and if my date decided to have a good time too, that was great, but either way I was going to have fun, my sex life took a huge turn for the better.  Just that change in attitude took me from a situation where I almost never got laid, to a situation where I was having sex with 3 to 5 different women every single week.  Better yet, the women almost always initiated the sex - AND they almost always initiated sex on the first date.  This was true with women I had met on conventional dating sites as well as on sex dating sites. 

The less I tried to get my dates to have sex with me, and just had fun with them the more likely they were to jump on me at the first opportunity. 

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