Guide To Sex Dating Sites

CFNM - or Clothed Female, Nude Male encounters can be a fun way to play and it comes with the added bonus of being about as safe as sex can get these days.  There are various ways to find such encounters.  Adult dating sites will give you the opportunity to meet sexually adventurous women who enjoy the power of  CFNM, so if it’s something you’re interested in, don’t hesitate to mention it in your profile. 

 A CFNM encounter can take several forms.  It can be a one on one thing, or it could be a group activity (which can be a real rush).  Sometimes it is strictly a look but don’t touch situation, while other times your partners may touch you or themselves, tease you visually and physically, or there may be discipline and/or humiliation games involved.  Because everyone has their fantasies and preconceived ideas regarding what CFNM is all about, I recommend you set the ground rules right from the start, so everyone involved knows what to expect.  It’s also a good idea only to play these games with people you have at least some trust in, because you will be in a vulnerable state, so someone with the wrong intentions can turn a really good experience into a really bad one pretty quickly. 

If you’re new to CFNM, I suggest you start with a one on one situation in a private setting.  Basically, you get naked, while your partner stays fully dressed, even if fully dressed means something sexy.  Then, she gets to call the shots.  She might have you masturbate in front of her, she might have you bend over and then spank you, she might take pictures of you, or she might have you rub her feet or clean her windows.  The not knowing what she’ll have you doing is a big part of the thrill. 

If you’re really daring, you can give her the option of telling you where and when to get naked.  Be careful though - although female public nudity is usually tolerated, male public nudity may not be.  You don’t want to wind up getting arrested and convicted as a sex offender.

 If you enjoy CFNM or are really uninhibited, a group encounter can be a lot of fun - especially if you’re the only man in the group!  Being stark naked in front of a group of appreciative women can be an enormous turn-on.  You could offer to do a naked waiter routine for your sex buddy and her friends - even if you work for free, the “tips” will make it all worthwhile. 

Ultimately, the CFNM situation usually develops into the NFNM situation because all involved wind up getting too turned on to keep things under control.  It’s all good though!

Adult dating websites can be a lot of fun and they can provide excellent opportunities for enhancing your sex life, but you do need to use a little caution when meeting people on these sites. There are several pitfalls you need to think about and take the appropriate steps to avoid.

While meeting women on any kind of dating site is basically a numbers game, this is especially true with adult dating sites.  Actually it’s more than one numbers game.  The first numbers game is simply that the more women you contact, the greater your chance of actually meeting someone to hook up with.  Of course, the better you are at writing your profile ad, your message headlines, and your messages, the better you’ll be at that first numbers game.  The second numbers game is the more times you contact a given prospect, the more likely you’ll be able to hook up with her. 

Let’s talk about that second numbers game.  Remember, on the legitimate adult dating sites (let’s not even think about the scam sites), some women are receiving hundreds of messages per week.  Even if you are a master of writing attention-getting message subject lines  and response-generating messages, there’s still a good chance that your message will get lost in the huge volume of messages a given woman is receiving.  So if she’s someone you’re interested in, don’t be afraid to contact her on a regular basis to try to get noticed.

Now, what would be considered contacting someone on a regular basis?  Contacting someone on a daily basis, while it meets the definition of “regular”, would probably be considered stalking, which will not only not tend to generate a favorable response, but will probably wind up getting your messages blocked.  I recommend a frequency of about once every 2 to 4 weeks. 

But what if she looks really hot and you’re really anxious to meet her?  That would be your first mistake.  You really need to develop the attitude that there are plenty of good looking women to hook up with and no matter how good she may look, she’s NOT the perfect woman.  The best thing you can do to give yourself an active sex life is to NOT be too anxious to meet ANY woman.  Be a bit stand-offish.  Make contact, but don’t drool all over your keyboard as you type your message. 

You want to be persistent and continue to express interest as long as she still has a profile up and is active on the site.  Now, what do I mean by “active”?  Most sex dating sites will give you an indicator as to when the last time someone logged on to her account was.  If she hasn’t been there in over a month, definitely don’t waste your time sending her a message.  You are far better off spending your time messaging active members rather than hoping one particular woman will happen to log in again after being away for a month and happen to see your message and answer it.  If she’s hot and she does come back after being gone for a month, she’ll probably have several hundred messages in her mailbox, and most likely she’ll just delete them all and start over.  Even after just a couple of weeks, the huge volume of accumulated messages that a particularly good looking woman will undoubtedly have is more likely to be totally deleted than read, so I recommend sticking to sending messages to women who are checking in at least every week or so.  Remember, you aren’t sending these prospects messages every week - you follow-up every 2 to 4 weeks.  By sending messages every 2 to 4 weeks, you’ll be seen as someone who is interested, but not an obsessed stalker. 

You may be wondering what to send as a follow-up message.  You could simply send the same (or nearly the same) thing you did on the first contact.  There’s a good chance she didn’t get to read it the first time around.  You may want to change it up somewhat.  The main thing is to try to come up with an interesting subject line and a brief, but interesting message.  Besides that, don’t sweat it.  If you’re contacting multiple women multiple times and you don’t come across as a stalker or some clingy wussy-boy, you will meet women and you will get laid - it’s simply a matter of time.