Guide To Sex Dating Sites

There’s a couple of ways you can do things to be able to get laid on a frequent basis. The first way is the most common system in which you have to continually meet women online, at clubs, at the gym, etc. and chat them up, get their contact information and then try to set up dates. This of course is effective to varying degrees depending on how good you are at generating sexual attraction for you in the women you meet. But there is a much easier and less time-consuming way to get laid - pretty much as often as you like.

In business, it is said that the easiest way to build business is through repeat customers. This “repeat business” concept can dramatically increase the frequency at which you get laid, and with a lot less time and effort than trying to do “one-nighters” all the time.

Basically, what you do is build a network of “sex-buddies” who you can see on a regular basis. Oh, but wait a minute, won’t having sex with a woman on a regular basis lead to some type of committed relationship. Of course it can, and there may come a time when you want that to happen, but if you handle things properly, you can easily retain your sex-buddy status with the women you date.

There’s actually a lot of women who themselves are just wanting casual sex rather than a long term relationship. Just like men, these women have a variety of reasons for only wanting sex - perhaps they don’t have time to commit to a relationship, maybe they just got out of a relationship and they just want to have some fun for a while, whatever. Even so, it’s been my experience that women are somewhat more “wired” for seeking long term relationships, and so if you don’t want to fall into an LTR with any of the women you date, you need to remember one important point:

Don’t be in contact with any one woman too often. For the most part, “too often” is more than once (maybe twice) per week. “In contact” means ANY contact - phone calls, text messages, email, or in-person. If you are in contact with a woman more often than that, one of two things will tend to occur: She’ll either start to view you as a boyfriend (rather than a sex-buddy) and begin to press you for a commitment, OR, she’ll think you’re starting to view her as a girlfriend (rather than a sex buddy) and if she’s not interested in an LTR, she’ll break off contact. Either way, you’ve lost a sex-buddy, which is bad for for “business”.

For more information on setting up a network of sex buddies, check out the section on “Sex on Demand” on my main website at www.guidetosexdatingsites.com.

If you’re engaging in casual sex, condoms really are a necessity. Yeah, there’s a lot of reasons why you or your partner might not want to use a condom, but in a time when the consequence of unprotected sex can be DEATH, you really owe it to yourself and your partners to use condoms every time you have sex outside of a long-term monogamous relationship.

This brings me to a relatively common problem. Some people are allergic to latex - which is what the vast majority of condoms are made out of. Latex allergies can be severe and are sometimes the reason why people skip the condom when they have sex.

Fortunately, you don’t have to trade potentially catching an STD for having a severe allergic reaction. The vast majority of people can use polyurethane condoms without any allergic reactions. There are also a few condoms made from lambskin and other natural materials, but “natural” condoms may be somewhat porous, which means they are not as effective at blocking the transmission of viruses like HIV. Because of this, if you or your partner can’t use latex, I recommend polyurethane condoms.

Even beyond the allergy issue, polyurethane condoms have some other advantages over latex. Polyurethane condoms are thinner and transfer heat better than even the thinnest latex condoms, which results in a much more “natural” feel to sex.

The primary downsides to polyurethane condoms are that they are more expensive than latex, they’re a bit more difficult to find (not as many stores carry them), and they aren’t as elastic as latex. This last issue of elasticity is an issue primarily because polyurethane condoms have a much greater tendency to slide off than latex condoms. Because the polyurethane condoms are also less noticeable to the wearer, it is quite possible for them to slide off without the wearer knowing it. For this reason, it is a good idea to check the status of polyurethane condoms periodically during intercourse to be sure the condom is where it should be.

Until next time…

Last time I talked about the importance of confidence in being able to meet women and get laid. But what if you aren’t confident interacting with women in a dating/sexual setting?

Well, one thing you can do is “borrow” confidence from some other area of your life in which you are confident. For example, perhaps you are particularly confident in your work, or perhaps a sport, or a hobby. Whatever it is, if there is something you are confident about, with a little practice you can transfer that confidence to dating.

Start by imagining that thing you are confident about. Notice how it feels. Notice how you are holding yourself (your posture). Notice how you are breathing. Notice the expression on your face. Notice the thoughts that are going through your mind. Once you have a good idea of what the state of confidence requires in terms of posture, breathing, facial expression, thoughts, etc., you can re-create confidence by simply using the same posture, facial expression, breathing, etc..

If you can’t think of anything you feel really confident about in your life, you can “fake” confidence by finding someone confident to mimick. As an example, the fictitious character “James Bond” is a good role-model for confidence. If you’ve never seen a James Bond movie, rent one. The ones with Sean Connery are probably the best for this purpose, as Connery’s “Bond” was about as smooth and as confident with women as one can get. Despite Connery getting advanced in age, he still is considered by many women of all ages to be a very sexy man. This is the type of guy you want to imitate - not necessarily literally though. I’m not suggesting you wear a tux all the time and say your name in the “Bond…James Bond” format - that’s maybe a bit too cliche’. But you can mimick Bond’s posture, facial expressions, way of moving (slow, smooth, powerful), etc..

Although pretend or “acted” confidence is not a powerful as the real thing, it is close enough that it will dramatically improve your dating success, and as you experience more success with women, you will naturally become more confident for real. Eventually, you won’t be “acting” anymore - you’ll actually BE confident and “good with women”.

Good luck!

When it comes to being successful with women, confidence is probably the most important thing you need to have in order to get dates and have those dates wind up as nekkid fun.  Confidence can make you very sexy in the eyes of most women even if you are not particularly handsome, even if you don’t have much money, and regardless of what age you are.  When it comes down to it, confidence is the key to getting laid and getting laid often.

On the other side of the coin, arrogance is a big turn-off for most women.  Although you can overcome the repellant effect of arrogance to some extent if you have a lot of money, happen to be famous, or are unusually good-looking, arrogance will diminish the success you could have with women. 

So, if confidence is such a good thing to have (it can largely overcome the anti-attraction effects of almost anything else), and arrogance is such a damaging trait to have (it can largely negate the attractiveness generated by almost anything else), and the two are somewhat close in people’s minds, I think it is important to be able to tell the difference.

I define confidence as being the belief (or at least the behavior in accordance with the belief) that you are as good or as desirable as anyone else.  Arrorgance is the belief (or sometimes simply the behavior) that you are BETTER than everyone else.  In many cases, arrogance is actually not based on a real belief that one is superior, but rather on a fear that one is inferior and by pretending to be superior, maybe nobody will notice your shortcomings.  This is why although arrogance is sometimes considered to be over-confidence, it is often actually a cover for a lack of confidence. 

So when it comes to dating success, confidence drives up your perceived sexiness and arrogance drives it down. 

The one time that arrogance can actually help you is if you turn it into a joke.  For example, if you’re a “regular guy”, and you’re on a date and see some rich guy pull up in a fancy, expensive car, you might turn to your date and say something like, “What a loser - showing up in last year’s Mercedes!” 

So confidence is critical - but what if you aren’t confident?

You can pretend to be confident until you actually are!

I’ll explain what I mean by that next time.

Until then…  much dating success to you!

Last time I talked about what to do if you happen to unexpectedly experience erection problems.  This time I wanted to discuss some options (besides the prescription ED drugs) for those of you with chronic ED. 

 ED can be a result of other health problems  (such as diabetes) and/or a result of medications being taken for other health problems (such as anti-depressants).  Obviously in such cases, you eithe have to compensate with ED drugs - if they don’t interact with other medications you may be taking, and/or managing your other health problems as well as possible through a combination of lifestyle and medical treatment.

 But many cases of ED occur without any particular explanation, at least within the realm of conventional medicine.  In some cases, abnormal spinal function in the low back (with or without back pain) can result in ED because the nerves to the genitals arise in the lumbar spine and problems in this area can interfere with normal nerve supply.  Since the nerves are like the electric wires that control the organs, if the nerve signals aren’t flowing, it’s kind of like shutting the power off to the organs - which means even though you’re turned on, your penis may not be.  To be evaluated for possible spinal causes of ED, I recommend you see a doctor of chiropractic or a doctor of osteopathy. 

Along a similar line, acupuncture may be helpful in getting rid of ED.  Don’t worry, they don’t stick needles in your penis (to get that, you have to find someone on Alt.com)!  Acupuncture is all about the flow of energy in the body.  The needles are a means of re-balancing energy flow, and by re-distributing the flow of energy in your body, oftentimes the underlying causes of ED can be eliminated. 

Because ED is largely an issue of blood flow, anything you can do to improve circulation will likely help.  The two most important things you can do to improve your circulation are to stop smoking if you smoke, and to get regular exercise.  Just about any type of exercise will help, as long as it gets your heart rate up and gets the circulation moving. 

There are various herbal supplements on the market being sold as remedies for ED.  Some herbs, such as ginkgo biloba and ginseng do increase circulation and may help to some degree with ED.  Other herbs, such as yohimbe supposedly work through improving male sex hormone production.  I tried yohimbe for a few weeks at one point and the only difference I noticed from it was a mild stomach ache for a few hours after I took it.  I wasn’t having any erection problems when I started taking yohimbe - I was taking it to try to help my body keep up with the demands I was placing on it.  You might get better results than I did, but I didn’t notice any particular benefit. 

 Of course, if all else fails you can always resort to the ED drugs like Viagra or Levitra.  They do have their side-effects and not all men can take them, but they are a good stand-by if you can’t solve your ED any other way.  I suggest at least trying the other recommendations to see if you can find a more natural solution to the problem though. 

Good luck!